Hey hey! Welcome back! Before we dive in the VBAC conversation, let me just encourage you really quickly. You may be going through a hard time right now and I just wanted to remind you that you’re important, strong, and courageous. It’s OK to go through your emotions, but do not dwell on them. Instead, put a smile on your face. As hard as that is right now, smiling helps uplift a mood. Trust me, I know (I use this tactic myself).
OK! Now let’s get on with this blog. Today we’re going to discuss my VBAC. I’m going to tell you what happened during my pregnancy to make me switch hospitals and my feelings through the entire process. I’ll also share with some take-aways that you can use if you’re in the same boat I was. Ready? Let’s go.
OK! If you have seen my Youtube channel, you probably looked at my video that discusses my labor experience with my first child (if not go check it out), you also know it ended in a c-section. The recovery experience was NOT fun, so I was determined with my next child to have a vaginal birth. If you’ve read my previous post (Whoa! I’m PREGNANT with PCOS! Let’s Discuss This!), you know already that my VBAC was a success (praise Jesus). But the road to that success wasn’t a comfortable one.
From the very beginning of my pregnancy, I expressed to my doctor that I was aiming for a VBAC. She gave me the “OK” (even though I didn’t need her to) and we continued my check-ups. So imagine my shock when I went to my 27 week visit and her intern shared with me that my VBAC will most likely end in a c-section. My (then) doctor confirmed this and encouraged me to set a repeat cesarean; she strongly recommended that we do so because it was going to be risky to do the VBAC. I was taken aback by this news and not really sure what to say at the time. I simply nodded and said I would call, but I never did.
Discouragement and depression (very bad for pregnancy) was taking over my body. I knew that the only way to get my VBAC was to switch doctors and ultimately hospitals. So I looked around and did a ton of research. Through a lot of recommends, I found the perfect Doctor. My husband wasn’t completely on board with this plan, but it was ultimately my decision since I was the one going through this experience. In the end, he supported my decision and knew I was right to switch (I’m always right! LOL). Switching hospitals was the first decision to a successful VBAC.
Know your rights. VBAC is possible.
You have the right to refuse medical attention from a hospital, you have a right to switch doctors. I was with my previous doctor for 6 years and never once had a reason to not trust her word…until that point. Once she flip flopped on me, my trust for her went out the door. So I left. It will be very hard to switch, especially if you love you doctor, however, this is your body. Therefore, your choice.
Ressearch! Research! Reseach!
Of course having a VBAC has its risks. Do you know that a repeat c-sections has higher than a VBAC? Not many doctors will reveal that! C-sections are more convenient for doctors. So it’s no wonder why doctors prefer to do them! But our bodies were made and designed to carry babies and deliver them vaginally. I understand some bodies aren’t able to go through the process due to medical reasons, however most repeat cesareans could have been VBACS because women did not do their due diligence on that. They trusted what the doctor said.
I want to say, I am NOT a medical expert in babies, delivery, science, or medicine. These are simply my observation after I’ve done extended research!
It’s your body!
While I am a huge fan of having your significant other to be in agreement with decisions you’re going to make, however this is an exception. Unless he has had a bad experience, or knows something about the hospital in question, then he has very little say with the decision. You have to be comfortable because you’re the one giving birth. It is a very painful, stressful, dangerous experience and you have to be confident in your doctor to care for you and the baby.
What happened in labor?
Let’s fast forward to the day I went into labor. I am not going to go through the entire thing (you can read that here). In the car, as I was having contractions I was praying (mainly not to die), in between contractions, I was encouraging myself. “My body is doing what it is designed to do. I am fearfully and wonderfully made. All is well.” That is what I repeated over and over. Encouraging myself was the second decision I made that led to my successful VBAC.
When I couldn’t repeat the saying or couldn’t think straight enough to pray, my husband (who was driving) said it for me. The support he should me throughout my pregnancy and labor journey helped to keep me strong. He was by my side the entire time. In addition to him, my parents, in loves, and friends were all supportive and encouraging. Having a strong support system was the third factor that helped my VBAC be successful.
During the delivery, my Dr. Barrett was encouraging, and never once talked c-section to me. When I asked for one (in the middle of pushing), she reminded me that I came to her to avoid a repeat cesarean. Having her as my doctor was the best situation for me. She was the forth factor in my VBAC success.
During this entire pregnancy, I learned that I cannot be controlled by my fears. Listening to fears, will only cause me to miss the blessings meant for me. While, nothing is wrong with c-sections when they are necessary, that wasn’t the route I wanted to take. I knew that I would have regretted if I didn’t at least give a VBAC an honest try! I am so happy I did because I didn’t have to go through a crazy recovery period and was able to enjoy my daughter, despite the fact that I ripped (OUCH)! OK! Let’s talk about the take-aways.
Get a support team!
Before labor hits, get your support team together. Find a prayer, quote, or phrase that motives you to continue breathing. When you can’t say it, your support team should chime in and repeat it to you and encourage you to stay calm and breathe.
Trust your doctor
Although this sounds very contradicting to what I said earlier, it isn’t. You need to be able to trust that your doctor will do what is best for YOU and baby first. My doctor knew my needs, wants, and health. She trusted in my body to do its job and I trusted her professional voice. She could have easily said, “Ok, Celeste. We’re going to do a c-section.” You need to find that doctor that understands your wishes, the process, and isn’t pushing his/her own agendas. After all, you’re their boss.
Trust your body
God has designed our bodies to do some pretty amazing things. We need to trust our bodies and our instincts. Instead of believing what other people say (what your body can and cannot do), believe in the ability your body has and listen to it.
Well, that’s all for now! Did you have a VBAC? Do you want to have a VBAC? Tell me your story in the comments below!!